Who are you and what breaks your heart?

The answer to the question is an important one and is different for every person. Within the answer to this question lies the desires of your heart, and where you can begin to find your purpose.

Who are you and what breaks your heart?

Who are you and what breaks your heart? I first heard this question a few years ago as a challenge from our youth pastor. Along with the other adult sponsors of our youth, I searched deep within myself to answer the question.  The answer to the question is an important one and is different for every person.  Within the answer to this question lies the desires of your heart, and where you can begin to find your purpose.   It took me several days to fully craft my response.  Over the next several years, I returned to the question as well as my answer, sometimes tweaking the verbiage, but never the message.

I am a musician, an engineer, a mentor; my desire is to leave things better than I found them; I am a sister, daughter, wife, mother, aunt, friend.

Suicide breaks my heart; cancer breaks my heart; human trafficking breaks my heart; seeing people make bad life decisions breaks my heart.

I am thankful for the One True and Living God who saved me from myself and, through His Son Jesus Christ, has saved me from my sins.

I am confidently persistent, boldly creative and passionately determined that I may inspire others to live a life that ultimately matters.

I am a believer in Jesus Christ and a firm believer that God has a plan for every one of our lives.   In my young life, I struggled to find that purpose.  Once I found it, I developed a passion to help others find their purpose in life as well.

This blog is a collection of life experiences, probably some past and some present, designed to connect with you on your life journey, to help you ultimately live a life that matters.  My sincerest prayer is that through my words, you are drawn into a deeper relationship with the One who can fulfill your purpose in life.




When you’re account is overdrawn by $10,000.00

Have you ever had that “What the ? “ moment like you’ve been kicked in the stomach… like when you realize you missed an appointment that you waited 3 months to get, or when you receive  bill for something you didn’t know was coming… or when your bank account is suddenly overdrawn by $10,000.00.

Yes, you read I right…   $10,000.00

How many of us actually make $10,000.00 transactions?

When my mom told me her account was overdrawn by over $10,000.00, I had to read her message a second time to make sure I read it right.   Surely there was some mistake.  Ha.  NOPE.  overdrawn by $10,000.00

We were away for the weekend, and the last thing I said to her (literally) was, “Do not throw any wild parties, Nana!”

What the heck kind of wild party did she throw for $10,000 while we were gone for the weekend?? Goodness!

Luckily, it was simply a bank error (really) so she’s back in black. (:-))

Be a blessing to someone today!


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Did we fail them?

Got some sad news today. Left me wondering if we sometimes don’t do enough to help those who need help. It’s the feeling I described in my book, Masquerade, when Charissa tries to help a struggling teen who coincidentally knows a woman Charissa had tried to help years before, whose life turned out to be a mess. Charissa second guesses her impact, and wonders why she bothers trying to mentor anyone because she must not be effectively enough.

This is a lie straight out of the pit of hell. Satan would like nothing more than for us to feel useless. Don’t give in to the lie.

Charissa describes how helpless she felt when her neighbor committed suicide – the thoughts  of, “I should have said…   I should have done”

We beat ourselves up because we somehow feel responsible for someone else’s poor choice.  In Charissa’s case, the feeling was so strong, she wondered why she’d ever tried to help anyone.

The reality is, however, that other people’s choices are not ours to make.  There are times I would love to make better life choices on behalf of other people who are making poor ones. Unfortunately, we can’t.

There are some things we can do to help the downtrodden.

1. Love them. Unconditionally. Even when they make poor choices. We can and should continue to build good relationships with them. This involves genuine, heartfelt conversations that never break trust. Never, and I mean never, share what they’ve told you in confidence (only exception is if they share imminent plans to harm themselves or others).

2. Pray. Pray that God will give to opportunities to share His love. Pray that God will place other people in their lives to share His Hope as well Pray that God will intervene in their lives.

Be a blessing to someone today!



To read more about how Charissa fought this battle, pick up your copy of Masquerade today!

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Two kinds of people…

When you live your life expecting miracles, you see them unfold right before your eyes. It’s like opening a Christmas gift!

With the highs and lows in life, sometimes simultaneously, we can get caught up in distractions that keep us from blessings that unfold before us.

I have discovered, though, that there are people who cannot see the miracles even though they happen right in front of them. I think to myself, “are they blind?” Yes, truly I think they are. Blind to the Spirit, I suppose.

Perhaps there was a time in my life, too, where I missed the miracles and wonderful things God was doing in my life. If so, I don’t ever want to return to that state. My desire is to continue being the person that sees miracles everywhere I look.

I pray that you see miracles today, my friend. Today and every day.



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Invincible… not

When it comes to high school graduations, or any graduations, for that matter.  many times we take for granted the accomplishments of the graduate.  During the ceremony for my nephew’s graduation, however, we were reminded in a a sobering way not to take those accomplishments for granted.  One of the graduates gave a speech that brought most attendees to tears.   He started his speech by talking about how easy his schoolwork came to him for most of his school career, and how easily all of his A’s came for him.. that was, until he experienced a life-changing brain injury because, in his words, he thought he was invincible.

He spoke slowly and deliberately, but immediately captured the attention of the thousands of people in attendance as he recounted his story.  During his sophomore year of high school, he wrecked a dirt bike and suffered a life-altering brain injury.  The doctors told his parents that if he lived, he would most certainly be a vegetable.  He spoke of the incredible journey he’s been on as he had to learn to walk and  talk again.  The school administrators came together to re-design classes and programs for him so that he would be able to complete the work.  It took a long time and a very strong will, but this young man stood courageously and addressed his fellow classmates.

He encouraged everyone to realize that life is precious, and we are not promised tomorrow.  Indeed, we are not.  This young man and his accomplishments were quite an inspiration to us all.  May we be mindful that we are not invincible.



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